When a Family Member Dies by Suicide
- First and most important of all understand that it was not your fault. The only person responsible for the decision to kill him/herself is that person.
- Expect to feel lots of emotions including shock, denial, sadness, anger, guilt and shame. Don't be afraid to talk to people about your feelings, write in a journal, etc.
- Doing something positive to remember the person can be very comforting (i.e. writing a poem, song or letter; attending the funeral service; making a scrapbook; etc.)
- Grieving is hard work and the grief associated with suicide lasts longer than other kinds of grief. Seek out people who will support you during this difficult time.
- Some days may be more difficult (i.e. the person's birthday; anniversary of their death; holidays, etc.) Be gentle with yourself on those days.
- It's OK to have and share good memories of the person and it's OK to laugh. These are signs of healing.